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Safe Oral Sex

By Camille Linick

You use the proper protection for sex, right? Most people know about the consequences
of not having safe vaginal and anal sex. But do you use protection for oral sex too? Probably not. And Why? Because oral sex seems like a free-for-all because pregnancy isn't an issue. Not to mention, people generally don't consider oral sex to be all that dangerous. However, a person can contract all of the same scary diseases and infections from oral sex. Just in case you were wondering, these scary diseases and infections include hepatitis, genital herpes, HPV (genital warts), gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia, and HIV. So, does that mean that people shouldn't be having oral sex? No way! You've got options! Products such as flavored condoms (sold at SSIS) are easily used for fellatio, while glyde dams (also known as dental dams, since they were originally used in dentistry) and plastic wrap can be used cover the vagina or anus, preventing fluid exchange. Also for cunnilingus, a condom can be cut down the side to form a "homemade" glyde dam, if plastic wrap or an actual glyde dam isn't available. Of course, using a physical barrier is the best and safest method of protection, but if you choose not to use one, there are still things you can do to be safer. For instance, it's not a good idea to perform oral sex if you have sores or cuts in your mouth, or if you have recently brushed your teeth, which can cause microscopic tears in the gums and tongue. During fellatio, don't let someone ejaculate in your mouth - finish it off outside with your hands. You can stimulate the penis from the side, a technique called "humming", which will also help you avoid getting secretions in your mouth. And don't forget about the wide variety of vibrators that can do things that tongues can't. Wondering how are you going to convince your partner to go for it? You can always simply state your concern and ask for their opinion. Something like, "I saw a condom ad, and I started to get concerned" can get the ball rolling on the subject. For situations when you and your partner may not have as good communication, you might say something like, "I've always used condoms, it's just safer" or "I'll be too tense to enjoy it if we don't use protection." Remember that using protection with oral sex doesn't have to kill the passion - putting products on together can be part of the foreplay, and when it becomes a regular part of your sexual experience, protected oral sex will seem as obvious to you as it is now to have protected vaginal and anal sex. All the products you need for safe oral sex are close at hand, too, sold at SSIS on the third floor of the Shapiro Student Center. With such cheap and easy ways to keep yourself safe, there's no reason not to make protected oral sex the only kind of oral sex in your life.


Top Ten McDonald's Excuses for the Condom in a Big Mac
Care of David Letterman

10. We were test-marketing the new "McTrojan"
9. Condom, condiment--what's the damn difference?
8. It still tastes better than the "Arch Deluxe"
7. It was either there or in the vanilla shake
6. Turns out the rumors about Grimace and Mayor McCheese are true
5. We're experimenting with a new, even happier "Happy Meal"
4. So what -- a regular Big Mac is 60% latex anyway
3. Employees too embarrassed to say, "Would you like condoms with that?"
2. Drive-thru speaker broken -- "Coke with lots of ice" sounded like "prophylactic device"
1. When you're serving billions and billions, you can't be too careful


Mr. Smith
Care of BARCC (Boston Area Rape Crisis Center)

This role-play was adapted from Harper's weekly. It was originally carried in the American Bar
Association Journal. Imagine a robbery victim undergoing the same sort of cross-examination that a
rape victim goes through.

"Mr. Smith, you were held up at gun point at the corner of First and Main?"

"Yes."

"Did you struggle with the robber?"

"No."

"Why not? Did he pull out a gun or a knife?"

"No... he threatened to kill me."

"Then you made a conscious decision to comply with his demands rather than resist?"

"Well, yes, but..."

"I see. Have you ever been held up before?"

"No."

"Have you ever given money away?"

"Yes, of course."

"And you did so willingly?"

"What are you getting at?"

"Well, let's put it like this, Mr. Smith... You've given money away in the past. In fact, you have quite a reputation for philanthropy. How can we be sure you weren't contriving to have your money taken away by force?"

"Listen, if I wanted..."

"Never mind. What were you doing out in the street at 11:00 pm?"

"Just walking down the street. I had just come out of a bar. The defendant had also been in the bar drinking and he left at the same time I did."

"Did you know the defendant before the evening?"

"No, I had just met him in the bar."

"Who paid for the drinks?"

"We each paid for our own drinks."

"So you showed him that you were carrying a lot of money?"

"But, well yes... I didn't mean..."

"What were you wearing?"

"A suit. I had been working late, and I didn't have a chance to change my clothes."

"In other words, Mr. Smith, you were walking around the streets late at night in a suit that practically advertised the fact that you might be a good target for some easy money, isn¡¯t that so? I mean, if we didn't know better, Mr. Smith, we might even think that you were asking for this to happen, mightn't we?"


New SSIS Products!

SSIS has new condoms for you! They are 2 for 25¢ ...and great for oral sex!

Trustex Flavored Condoms!

Flavors include:
Chocolate
Vanilla
Strawberry
Banana
Mint
Cola
Grape

Is oral sex worth 12.5¢ to you?? So remember, SUCK SAFELY!


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